How to boost someone elses mental wellbeing

Mental Health & Wellbeing

“Ahakoa he iti, he pounamu”

Although it is small, it is precious.

Offering support to boost someone's mental wellbeing is such an incredible an act of kindness that can make a significant difference to them. As this whakatauki mentions, this gesture may feel small to you, but to the other person it could be very precious and just what they need.

Whether it's a friend, family member, colleague, or even a stranger - stopping, connecting, and helping someone improve their mental state can have far-reaching positive effects. This blog outlines practical and compassionate ways to uplift someone's spirits and positively contribute to their overall mental wellbeing.

Practise Active Listening

One of the most impactful ways to boost someone's mental wellbeing is by lending an attentive ear. Engage in active listening when they express their thoughts, feelings, or concerns. Show genuine interest and avoid interrupting them. This simple act can make them feel heard and understood, fostering a sense of connection and support.

Offer Empathy and Understanding

Empathy is a powerful tool in enhancing someone's mental wellbeing. Put yourself in their shoes and try to understand their perspective. Offer words of comfort and reassurance, showing them that their feelings are valid and accepted. Sometimes, simply knowing that someone cares and acknowledges their struggles can provide immense relief.

Encourage Open Chat - chatter that matters

Encourage openness about their feelings and experiences. Create a safe space where they can freely express themselves without any fear of judgement. Sometimes, just talking about their challenges can provide relief and perspective, leading to a lighter mental load.

Engage in Positive Activities Together

Do something that brings joy - big or small!  Just doing something together can help create positive memories and distract someone from stressors. It could be something as simple as going for a walk, watching a movie, singing karaoke or playing a card game.  Shared experiences can foster a sense of belonging and happiness and distraction can be very helpful to give our minds a break.

Promote Self-Care Practices

Gently encourage them to engage in self-care routines. These may include activities they enjoy, such as dancing, reading, gardening, taking baths, or practising mindfulness. Assist in identifying activities that promote joy, relaxation and self-nurturing.

Provide Practical Assistance

Offering practical help can alleviate some of the pressure and feelings they hold. Whether it's assisting with chores, running errands, or helping with tasks, showing your willingness to simply lend a hand can reduce their mental burden.

Celebrate Achievements

Acknowledge and celebrate their achievements, no matter how small. Recognising their efforts and successes can boost their self-esteem and motivation, contributing positively to their mental outlook.

Encourage Professional Support

If their mental wellbeing is significantly compromised, encourage them to seek professional help. Sometimes, speaking with a therapist or counsellor can provide the tools and strategies needed to navigate challenges effectively. 

Practice Gratitude

Encourage them to focus on the positive aspects of their life by practising gratitude. Regularly reflecting on what they're grateful for can shift their perspective and help them cultivate a more optimistic mindset.

Be Patient and Respect Boundaries

Everyone’s journey to improved mental wellbeing is unique. Be patient and respectful of their pace and boundaries. Give them space when needed, but let them know you're there whenever they're ready to connect.

Boosting someone's mental wellbeing requires genuine care, understanding, and a willingness to offer support. By actively listening, showing empathy, engaging in positive activities, chatting and promoting self-care, you can make a meaningful impact on someone's mental wellbeing. 

But what do I do, if I think they need professional support but they don't feel ready yet?

Convincing someone to seek professional mental health support can be a delicate process, as they may have varying levels of resistance or hesitancy due to stigma, fear, or other factors. 

Here are some steps you can take to approach this conversation sensitively:

Choose the Right Time and Place: Find a quiet and comfortable setting where you can have an open and private conversation without distractions or interruptions.

Express Concern: Begin by expressing your genuine concern for their well-being. Use "I" statements to convey your feelings and observations without sounding judgmental or accusatory.

Listen Actively: Before suggesting professional help, listen to their feelings and thoughts. Show empathy, validate their emotions, and let them know you're there to support them.

Educate: Provide them with accurate information about mental health, emphasising that seeking help is a sign of strength and courage, not weakness. Share statistics about how common mental health challenges are and how many people benefit from therapy.

Normalise chat: Normalise the idea of seeking help for mental health concerns by sharing stories of well-known individuals who have openly talked about their own experiences with therapy or counselling. If you've sought help for your own mental health concerns, sharing your positive experiences can encourage them to consider professional support as well.

Offer Resources: Provide them with information about different types of mental health professionals, such as therapists, counsellors, psychologists, or psychiatrists. Explain the differences between these professionals and how they can help.

Address Stigma: Discuss any potential stigma or misconceptions they might have about seeking help. Reinforce that seeking support is a step toward personal growth and well-being.

Share Benefits: Highlight the potential benefits of seeking professional help, such as gaining coping skills, improving relationships, and achieving emotional well-being.

Offer to Help: Offer your support in finding a suitable mental health professional, making appointments, or even accompanying them to the first appointment if they feel comfortable.  

Respect Their Decision: It's important to remember that you can't force someone to seek help if they're not ready. Respect their decision and let them know you'll be there for them regardless of what they choose.  However, if you are significantly concerned that they are in immediate danger to themselves or someone else, it’s important to take appropriate actions to ensure their safety, such as calling 111.

Set a Follow-Up: If they're hesitant, suggest revisiting the conversation after a certain period of time. This allows them to think about it without feeling pressured.

Involve Trusted Individuals: If they have other close friends, family members, or mentors, consider involving them in the conversation to provide additional support and perspectives.

Remember, your goal is to create a safe and non-judgmental space for them to open up about their struggles and to consider seeking help.  Be patient, understanding, and supportive throughout the process.  Even the smallest gestures of kindness can create a ripple effect of positivity and hope in their lives.  You can make a difference.